Regardless of how bad someone has hurt you, we must never allow our heart to be built on hate. I know sometimes it’s very hard to do especially when someone has hurt you so bad and all you want to do is hurt them like they hurt you. Living a life that is hate free creates peace of mind and also become a happier person. As Gandhi said, “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”
Sometimes we can’t control our environment but we do have full control of what we put out. When I was younger, I used to get teased about being Liberian, I didn’t realize that the negativity of others was sabotaging how I viewed myself, my family and everyone around me. It wasn’t until I learned about my culture (I’m still learning) I was able to have inner peace with myself and was able to stick up for myself. Sometimes negative words and actions are so poisonous that they start to invade our minds and our hearts.
The closest people could be the most harmful. You could be friends with someone and because they have become so bitter, they start to attack your dignity and beliefs. Sometimes people become so bitter that they will crush your dreams and aspirations just so they can smile. I had to let some people I thought were my friends because instead of taking control their lives, they blame everyone for every downfall.
4.Stressing over what could have been.
Sometimes we are so scared of change that we start to wander back to “that old thang.” We become reluctant to go after something new because we’ve become accustomed to what we already have or had. Stop tolerating your own actions! Instead thinking about the past worry and the now and how that’s going to lead you into the future.
William Ernest Henley said it best “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” Remember that this is your life and you can’t allow negative thoughts and behaviors control it. Your dignity is sometime tested but you always have to remember to stay strong!