Back in the day the community was a family. One person’s struggle was the struggle of all and one person’s triumph fell on the shoulders of all, to inspire and uplift. Now a days it seems like everyone is in it for the preservation of self. Where does that actually get you in the long run? If you make it and leave, then you are a sell out but if you make it and stay then you’re an idiot. What is the balance?
As Men, we are often the leaders, whether it be of the house or the block. We must use this power and this platform in order to build the minds of those we have influence over. Teach them that the success of another does not hinder that of his/her own. That it is possible to acknowledge that others are great without dimming their own light. That is the ultimate balance that much be reached in order to growth as groups instead of as individuals. We are quick to praise a celebrity for earning another million dollars that they might not even get a chance to spend because of the dozens on millions that preceded it, but a young man growing up in a one parent household gets a full ride to a university simply off of intellect and people assume that he stuck up because he is taking the first step in turning his humble beginning into an empire in a different zip code. Why must we encourage the complacent and crucify the driven.
Why do we envy our own but idolize the characters that act in this ongoing soap opera that overflows into every industry entitled “Money Does Buy Happiness”? This facade fueling our environment to make money by any means necessary that we may someday live a lifestyle where we too can forget the sting of a tear and the strain of a frown on our faces even if it mean that no one else can radiate in the glow of a smile. Why?
When I turn the heat on in my house, does your house get colder? When a Man exercises does that make you any fatter? A Man should be competitive and never complacent, but please do not confuse complacency with happiness, blessing are meant to be enjoyed so never overlook them.
Now once you have attained, it is now time to give back. Now a lot of people grow up humble, then by the grace of God obtain a very comfortable living, then try to feed the entire community and end up humble again. This happens because as Men we want to be the provider and we love to feel needed but what we forget is that sometimes are presence does way more than our pockets ever could. We must spend time giving back to the community in lieu of money. Money is disposable but time is precious. Help clean a neighborhood park, help coach your elementary sports teams, visit the elderly that kept you off the streets because its because of the time they gave up that you are able to give time instead of doing time. For this always be grateful. We must reciprocate love above all.
I love you, God loves you, Love Yourself,
Man of Madu