Category Archives: Self-Empowerment

Forgot how to effectively communicate? Here are a few tips that TIME has design to give good feedback.


When effectively administered, feedback is a powerful way to build knowledge and skills, increase skills, increase motivation, and develop reflective habits of mind in students and employees. Too often, however, the feedback we give (and get) is ineffectual or even counterproductive. Here, four ways to offer feedback that really makes a difference, drawn from research in psychology and cognitive science:

1. Supply information about what the learner is doing, rather than simply praise or criticism.
In “The Power of Feedback,” an article published in the Review of Educational Research in 2007, authors John Hattie and Helen Timperley point out that specific information about how the learner is performing a task is much more helpful than mere praise or, especially, criticism. In particular, research by Hattie, Timperley, and others has found that feedback is most effective when it provides information on what exactly the learner is doing right, and on what…

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Finding your Inner Peace of Mind.

meditation-retreats-2Nowadays life moves so fast that its hard to grasp the idea of living. Feel like your days are passing you by? Are there not enough hours in the day to finish everything you need to do? Are you just ready for the perfect break start a fresh slate?

Believe it or not, the problem does not lie in the little time we have, rather the way you value and use your time. This idea lives within the nooks and crannies of your mind and in order to save yourself, you MUST find inner peace and tranquility. This article is not going to outline your meditation regimen, but it will reevaluate your everyday routine in some aspects, and perhaps fix little problems that will allow you to live stress free, and actually grasp the life you live in front of you.

Finding you inner peace of mind simply means disciplining yourself to focus on your task and goals at hand. Doing so requires the renewing of basic characteristics that restrain your from focusing. This includes pride, blame, grudge and the idea to always be right. Does any of these characteristics sound familiar?

Holding grudges causes you to think about the specific thing you try not to think about. Doesn’t it sound redundant? of course it does, because it is. Learn to forgive! (if you haven’t already) Just coming to copes with yourself that your forgave the person or the certain situation allows your mind to come to peace and worry about better things, like YOUR LIFE! images-19

Living the life of being ahead and expecting the utmost respect also distracts your mind from life lessons, and instead requiring unnecessary attention to your cluttered life. The benefits of humility and never expecting anything can compliment your working peace and spark the element of surprise that your life lacks. Always being ahead requires you too no so much, instead of “going with the flow”.

Of course the weekly sessions of yoga, chai lattes, and the old fashion dose of relaxation can be a temporary medicine to peace, but you can’t forget these not so basic-  but BASIC- concepts of living a happy and healthy life 🙂

For more tips on Self-Disclipline and Peace of Mind, “Brian Tracy’s “No Excuses: The Power of Self Discipline” is a great read to the start of your new Self-Empower slate. 

The New Natural

The New Natural


There are those women for whom the term natural is a term of endearment, and wear it like a crown. These women seek to enhance the beauties they know already exist in them, however unrecognized. However, this post is not about these women. This post is about someone else. You have met her: natural on the outside, processed on the inside. These are the natural women who want to be natural, but only a certain kind of natural–meaning possessing a certain texture. It afflicts all naturals at a certain point in the transition period, but can manifest later into a more devalued self worth. For instance, in the transition period it is healthy to feel frustrated with the curl pattern that develops. You have never had to deal with multiple textures on your head at once, and after relaxing it can be a challeng. Right? Even afterwards though, it is natural to question the curls you have as beautiful, given that the entire process of going natural is about first combatting the failed sense of beauty of black hair has evoked in all our consciousnesses. The problem occurs when one does not fall in love with the texture. One attempts to change the natural state into their then perceived notion of what beautiful natural hair is. What this post proposes, and what I argue is that one does not truly go until one falls in love with the texture of one´s hair.

This is extremely important for the growing of the self and resistance to a perpetuation of hegemonic beauty standards. Or in layman terms, you cannot dismantle the master’s house with the master´s tools.  The same narrow ideas of beauty exists in both people: someone who rigidly wants relaxed hair as well as in someone who rigidly wants loosely curl pattern; and for that matter for someone who only wants natural women to have kinky hair. I have heard it all.

¨Its not kinky enough. I want it like yours.¨

¨How do you get it curly like that. Is that a texturizer? Where can I get that¨

¨What do you really put in your hair?¨

¨But I can´t do that. My curl pattern is not like yours¨

¨See, look at my texture in this baby picture. I need it like that again¨

¨But your texture is not like mines, are you mixed with something? I wish my hair was like yours¨

We have probably all been guilty of saying things like this. I am. And lets not get into good and bad hair. Suffice all this to say that loving the texture of your hair is a key part in being natural. It may even be the essence of it all. Without it, you are still confined to the narrowness of beauty standards that compelled you to begin your journey, only now you fill your perceived inadequacies with olive oil and Miss Jessie´s rather than relaxer and Remy Indian.