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New Season, New Goals.

As the summer is coming to an end most people find themselves coming up with new goals for the remaining four months of the year. This year I am guilty as charged. My new goal is to get fit (I cannot afford to lose any weight) and find a constructive activity like kickboxing or Zumba. Granted I have a low cut so I do not have to worry about sweating my hair out. However, here are some tips to be able to work out yet not sweat out your hair too much.

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Time:
If you love to run, run early in the morning when the air is still cool. This allows your hair to sweat out a little less.

How to style:
Natural hair- if you braid your hair at night then keep it the same.
Permed hair- you can keep it wrapped by putting bobby pins in it.

Scarves: Some may feel scarves are too ghetto and should not be worn to the gym. However, I feel if you have a hair style that needs it then wear it. Just make sure it’s the best scarf you have. Don’t go to the gym in your scarf with all the holes in it. If you still feel uncomfortable then style your scarf to make it look like a fashion statement.

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Don’t let the pressure of your hair stop you from reaching your goals. Please share if you use a different style to protect your hair when you work out.

~B.R.A.T (Black, Radical and Thorough

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Chapters 1-3: Realization

“Waiting for the world to be made.”

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Hurston’s beginning chapters started off with Janine current issue of her husband dying, and the flashback of how her life used to be. Janine thought of her bearing love to be a pear tree when she was younger, having the tree bloom with fruitful spirits and plenty of shade to secure her love and trust in a man. Her tree was then rot when she was forced to marry a man that she couldn’t find love in her heart to accept. Janine, still pitying herself for marrying a complete stranger because of the command of her Nanny wanted to love so much but couldn’t.

“You know honey, us colored folks is branches without roots and that makes things come round in queer ways.”

It is clear here that for centuries, Black women have been dealing with force and the baggage of doing things for others. In order for Janine to be on good terms with Nanny, the lady that practically raised her, she had to marry a man that she barely knew. Janine is still looking for her Pear tree love, that burning passion that she has for love, so bad until she is forcing herself to love a man that she doesn’t want to love.

How do you feel about the baggage and force that Janine has to deal with in these first chapters? 

Confidence in Your Cut!

As females our hair can become our security blanket. No one matter tragic our life may be the one thing we always have is our hair. I know a few people who will not cut their hair past a certain length because the thought of their blanket being too short fears them. Even when our bodies get struck down by diseases there are hundreds of wigs we can choose from to allow us feel safe under our newly purchased security blanket. However, what happens when we decide it is time for us to cut past our comfort zone the very thing we have held onto to for years….our hair.

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I’ve had multiple people come to me and mention how brave I am to cut my hair. I believe one has to be mentally prepared for the cut because there are mental changes that happen. For instance, I had shoulder length hair which was very versatile. When I cut my hair I would lay in bed in the mornings and think about how I had to comb down my wrap. Then it would dawn on my that I had a low cut. Another time I found a hairstyle I liked and planned to do it once I got back home. Then it dawned on my again how I had a low cut. Cutting my hair messed me up mentally for a few months.

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I want to clear something up though. When I say cut I do not mean completely off like I have my hair. I simply mean cut past one’s comfort zone. So if your hair is to the middle of your back and you cut it into a bob cut-thats a new style which requires confidence to rock. I transitioned into my confidence. When I first cut my hair I would never go outside without earrings because I left I would look like a boy. However, last night I noticed how much I have grown by going out two days in a row without earrings and feeling beautiful.

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I do believe if I had cut my hair before I was ready to then my confidence with my cut would have been a long journey. Not only do you have to build confidence from within but exemplify your confidence to others. I had a member of my church tell me she was upset that I cut my hair and how she did not like my cut at first. However, after a few months she fell in love with the cut on me and does not want me to grow my hair back. (She is not the first person to tell me to not grow my hair back) Her comment simply results from the confident and the security in knowing how well my new hair cut complimented me.

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Overall, whenever YOU are ready to cut YOUR hair make sure you stand firm to your decision because you believe it is the best decision for you. Guess what?? If that cut does not compliment you, let your hair grow back (because it will) and cut it in a new style once its able to be cut again. No matter how your hair looks find the beauty within yourself and rock your hair to the fullest!!

~B.R.A.T. (Black, Radical and Thorough)

I Am Not My Natural Hair.

Since I cut my hair I have had a lot of people compliment me on my cut and express their love for natural hairstyles. Occasionally afro centric individuals will approach me on the “Sista” tip assuming because I cut off my hair that I am into being afro centric. It always makes me wonder what individuals thought of me when my hair was natural yet pressed. Did they view me as another conformer to society by having straight hair. Did they feel I was wasting my time being natural if I did not want to embrace certain hairstyles?  So I pose the question ‘does having natural hair always mean you have to wear an afro or twists?

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My answer to the question is no. Having natural hair is a healthy hair choice not a lifestyle. Too often we associate hairstyles with lifestyles and that is not always the case. I know plenty of women who wear their wear straight who are heavily involved in being afro centric. On the other hand, I know women who wear afro centric hairstyles who could care less about empowering any one let alone African Americans.

 

Too often people feel the need to dress the part to show they are involved in certain things. For example, a lesbian does not have to dress like a male to prove she is a lesbian. Women do not have to have afro centric hairstyles to prove they are involved in afro centric activities. We need to learn how to embrace diversity in every scenario.

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Similar to African American women being judged on their hair in the workforce we have adapted the same mentality in our every day lives. We longer assume someone with natural hair may have other reasons for having the hairstyle other than to be afro centric. We have to start asking questions and finding out about the person instead of assuming they are a certain way based on their hair. I know for certain I am not my natural hair.
~B.R.A.T. (Black, Radical and Thorough)

Bad Weather: Great Hair

As most people know rain does not discriminate when it comes to ruining a hairstyle. Today I am here to shed some sunlight on my a quick do for my natural sisters and support to fellow natural sister who I admire.

 

The second quickest hairstyle after a ponytail is a bun. Some may believe making a bun is easy. Yet when your hair is thick and a little wild-then the bun becomes a morning project. So my friend, Huneyb Flyy created a Youtube video on how to create a Natural Hair High Bun.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BLtRgY8fkRo

 

 

In her video she mentions the actual bun you use to wrap your hair around. There are a few ways to get that bun.

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1. They sell them in beauty supply stores

2. Use 2 old socks (more socks depending on how big you want your bun)

– Cut off the toes of the 1st sock

– Now continuously flip the sock in and out until it makes a little bun

– Take the 2nd sock and wrap it around the 1st sock

– Continue the 2nd step

– Lastly take a knee high the color of your hair (just in case the bun shows it will blend in with  your hair

– Wrap it around your socks the same way you did for your socks

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Tweet us pics @afromadu to show us how well Huneyb Flyy’s tutorial helped you out.

 

In order for us as a people to become united as a race we must support one another. Please support my friend Huneyb Flyy:

 

Website: huneybflyy.com

Twitter: @huneybflyy

Instagram: @huneyflyy

Youtube Channel: Huneybflyy1

 

 

~B.R.A.T. (Black, Radical and Thorough)

 

 

 

 

Patience My Natural Hair Sister!

While on this natural hair journey, I realized that I must be able to embrace my natural hair at every stage and explore different looks and hair products. I believe that the first and most important tip when dealing with natural hair is having PATIENCE!

ahvhbMy hair and I have been at war since I became grown enough to think I could do it myself. I realized that walking away from perms was only the first step in being natural. Being natural has seriously become a journey for me. It has been a time that I realized things about myself just because I accepted my hair for its texture and the current length that it is.  You are able to love yourself more because once you accept your hair, you love your self a little more.

The first year of your natural journey should be time to learn more about yourself and how to handle your hair. You must use different products to know which one works for your hair because in doing so you will be able to create and maintain a consistent routine will help benefit healthy hair. I personally use YouTube as my number one resource when it comes to my natural hair. I view product reviews as well as different hair regimens.  While looking at these videos, I realized that I must ALWAYS remember NATURAL LONG HAIR IS NOT SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS OVERNIGHT! Did you know that hair grows approximately ½ inch per month which could total up to six inches in one year?

Proper care such as protective styles such as up do’s, braids and sew in weaves, using essential oils such as olive oil, coconut oil, raw African shea butter, and my new favorite Jamaican Black Castor Oil and most importantly  takes PATIENCE and consistent diligent care, retaining length should be made a little easier. So remember when trying to grow your natural hair, it is about having the patience to promote hair growth and retain length.

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