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My New Found Hair Journey

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 I must say my hair and I have had a love hate relationship these past couple of years. I went from having a perm for five years to transitioning into being all natural. After letting my natural hair grow out I decided to do the BIG CHOP and cut off my relaxed ends. Protective styles such as braids and quick weaves really helped my hair growth. If you are looking for a new protective style or even a fresh new hair style I recommend YouTube and Pinterest. After being three years natural I must say my fro had never looked so big and healthy. Personally the Cantu products really have helped my hair with growth and moisture. I always had a big issue with my hair becoming dry after I do my wash and go’s, but Cantu’s daily moisturizer really gives my fro life.

Recently about two months ago I became bored with my hair and decided to cut my hair. A part of me was scared to cut it because I did not know how I would look with a short cut, but the other part of me was ready for a change. I finally swallowed my pride and went to the hair salon and got it cut. But my sisters if you are going to get your hair cut make sure that it looks good both straight and natural. After wearing my new cut straight for about two weeks it was time to wash my hair and bring my curls back. I absolutely loved my natural hair with my new cut but a big part of my started to miss my big fro.

 On June 1, 2014 I went to the barbershop and cut off all my hair and decided to start all over. This hair cut has got to be the best decision I have ever made in a long time. I have so much confidence in myself now because I am no longer looking at my outside beauty but I am more focused on the beauty inside of me. This is not only a hair journey but this is a journey of self-growth. Don’t worry I will keep you updated with my hair journey, until next time my natural hair sisters, love yourself and most importantly your hair!

 

I Am Not My Natural Hair.

Since I cut my hair I have had a lot of people compliment me on my cut and express their love for natural hairstyles. Occasionally afro centric individuals will approach me on the “Sista” tip assuming because I cut off my hair that I am into being afro centric. It always makes me wonder what individuals thought of me when my hair was natural yet pressed. Did they view me as another conformer to society by having straight hair. Did they feel I was wasting my time being natural if I did not want to embrace certain hairstyles?  So I pose the question ‘does having natural hair always mean you have to wear an afro or twists?

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My answer to the question is no. Having natural hair is a healthy hair choice not a lifestyle. Too often we associate hairstyles with lifestyles and that is not always the case. I know plenty of women who wear their wear straight who are heavily involved in being afro centric. On the other hand, I know women who wear afro centric hairstyles who could care less about empowering any one let alone African Americans.

 

Too often people feel the need to dress the part to show they are involved in certain things. For example, a lesbian does not have to dress like a male to prove she is a lesbian. Women do not have to have afro centric hairstyles to prove they are involved in afro centric activities. We need to learn how to embrace diversity in every scenario.

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Similar to African American women being judged on their hair in the workforce we have adapted the same mentality in our every day lives. We longer assume someone with natural hair may have other reasons for having the hairstyle other than to be afro centric. We have to start asking questions and finding out about the person instead of assuming they are a certain way based on their hair. I know for certain I am not my natural hair.
~B.R.A.T. (Black, Radical and Thorough)