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Restoring Your Chilly Season!

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I always find that the colder seasons allow me to reconnect with my purpose in life. I mean, I’m not able to sit on the beach or be outside as much, so I am now reluctant to be faced with, well, me. And it is clear that everyone can relate.
During this reflective time, following a  few guidelines in making sure that my hibernation season is effective as possible. Here are some tips:

 

1. Self Empow. 5Saving money: Although the holidays are quickly approaching, we want to remind ourselves that although we want to spend uncontrollably for our loved ones, they will still love us the same if we bought the 16GB IPhone instead of the 32GB. Becoming more knowledgeable about money and learning how to save more, invest more, and ultimately make more, is always a good skill to rely on. Besides, who wants to be broke anyway? Getting an upper hand on your green by learning some things during the fall and winter time. And stay tuned on our site, we might even help you reach your financial success!
2. Cleaning house: Yup, Exactly what I meant. Your space. It’s getting colder now, who wants aSelf Empow. 2 cluttered space? Take a weekend (or two) and begin organizing, disposing, and rearranging things in your home, room, car, office, etc. It pays off to have a clean space, especially when you feel that life is cloudy and cluttered with mental and even physical THINGS. Control what you can and CLEAN HOUSE! Trash things that you don’t need, organize things that you do need, and you will thank us later! De-clutter that mind and embrace your hibernation season with a little winter cleaning.
3. Self Empow. 3.Recovering connections: Even though it is cuffing season and everyone wants to call and remember the old friendships and old flings that was once started, it’s always best to reconnect with old, GENUINE, friends and family members that you missed during the summer nights with friends or loud music at concerts. Recovering connections can also allow you to get in conversation about things you would have never talked about through the basic text message or the small comments on Facebook and Instagram. Get creative with reconnecting! Have small get-together or coffee dates with the VIP’s in your life and reconnect! You will be amazed at the relationships and friendships you will make.
4. Self Empow. 4Becoming productive: With all this extra time on your hands, you can always do a little more with your productivity. Digging deep and finding that special hobby that you once loved will be great during this cold season. Whether it’s curling up with a good book, writing your life away, cooking up good eats, or even that blog site that you never get to, do it! It is never too late to catch your forgotten hobbies. Being productive with the things you like to do will only cross some things off your mega to-do list, but it will also bring you that inner happiness that is comparable to those warm, eventful summer days.

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5. Having Fun! There’s nothing like having a boring chilly season. Being bored AND cold is not too much fun. Just remember that although the warm season is months away, use this time to find your inner peace and happiness.

Forty Days of Reconstruction.

Today marks the first day of lent, a tradition in many Christian denominations that observe the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ for 40 days. During this time, many Christians fast, pray, and sacrifice important things in their daily routines as a form of penitence. Although many are not of this denomination or not religious, lent is a way to observe materialistic things that are used excessively to find time and space to better themselves. 

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Can these forty days create a great habit to find time for your true purpose in life without being religious? Can you use these forty days to change your thinking in certain ways? end bad habits? Forty days is more than enough time to reconstruct the habits of the mind. Ending things like procrastination and becoming more productive, picking up great habits of working out, or reading books, and of course making choices that will impact your life.

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The idea of sacrifice in itself shines light to the willpower and discipline that is self imposed upon the self. The notion of removing the most vital item or habit in your life and finding ways to continue on with your days can be very hard in the beginning, but liberating simultaneously. How good will it feel to know that you can stay off of social media for forty days, or stop drinking sugary drinks and sodas? Great, of course. 

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Allow these forty days to be your reconstruction period. Take away all the toxins in your life and replenish them with a sense of truth, purpose, and productivity. Let us know what you are giving up for this season! 

 

 

 

Who’s next??

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Martin, Malcolm, Medgar, Jessie, Rev. Al, Andrew, Huey, and Nelson. Who’s next in line? All of these great men made impact’s on society. Who can we say have stepped into their footsteps and made a new path? There are several reasons (will only name 3) why we do not have leaders like the ones I’ve named. 

1. Lack of Transition  

In order to build great leaders we must reach back and mentor individuals who we can see has potential to continue the fight. Many times individuals whom we keep around us because we see great things in them are only able to watch what the leader does and never received teaching on how it is done. Hence, leaving the next generation of leaders trying to figure out how things are done without the background knowledge. 

For example, in math class teachers would annoy us by wanting to see how we derived to our answers. Sometimes our methods were wrong even though we still received the same answers. Similar to becoming a great leader, at times people know how to look at a problem and solve it by creating a movement of change. Yet without knowing how to properly organize, ignite, and motivate the people the movement will only become a moment and die out quickly. 

When the Trayvon Martin case happened it sparked a momentum amongst black people to unite and stand for justice. However, hundreds of black males wrongfully die daily but we do not fight for every man. Just like in the 1950-1960s,  blacks were lynched daily. Sure Negros at the time could have become desensitized but they decided to address the issue head on and make strides to fight against lynching. Today, we must ban together and fight against wrongful killings amongst our black man via blacks against other races, blacks on blacks, and blacks being put into the system to kill off their dreams. 

 

2. Lack of Support 

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 Where is the U-N-I-T-Y? What happened to everyone under the African diaspora uniting for greater causes? If a Hitler type arose in American wanting to kill blacks he would not separate the African Americans from the Caribbean Americans from the Africans? Guess what…we would all die because of the pigment of our skin which unites us back to the same continent. 

Too many times blacks have developed this “Look out for yourself” mentality. When did that develop? When did the black community stop looking out for one another? The biggest problem with blacks uniting is lack of support from other blacks. There was a time when blacks knew if they stood up for a cause that they could at least depend on their brothers and sisters to support them. Now, blacks will throw one another under the bus and not think twice about it. 

How were movements, such as the Civil Rights Movement and the fight to get African American studies in schools, able to occur without the support of blacks fighting for a cause. We must learn how to unite behind the new leaders that blossom out of our society. Everyone did not trust Martin, Malcolm or Medgar at first. However, they respected their positions and respected the way they carried themselves. In addition, they held them up when they were weak and encouraged them when they felt the pressure of the world on their shoulders. We can’t tear them down the first time they make a mistake or not do things the way we would do them if we had the courage enough to stand in their place. 

 

3. Hegemony 

The media decides what we listen to, what news we are given, and who we notice in society. This is called hegemony (taking whatever society gives us and never questioning it). If you want knowledge-you must search for it yourself. For example, out of the many slave narratives televised each year in February, why is it that we had to wait until 2013 to hear a slave narrative from an educated black man who was kidnapped and wrote a book about his experience  in 1853. Makes us question, how many other books have been written by educated blacks which have not been televised? 

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I am certain there are individuals from the African diaspora who are doing positive things in the community. Yet the media does not televise them as they should. However, the news will have a 2 minute segment on Sharkeisha. Or better yet, they will manipulate a television show which educated blacks for 30 minutes Monday-Thursday to once a week for an hour. Where is that BET show now? None existent on television like our new leaders. 

I am not stating there are not individuals who are doing their best to make changes in society. However, how long will it take the media to recognize those individuals and crown them the new Martin, Malcolm or Medgar? We need to acknowledge that the leaders of the last century are getting older and tired. Now is the time for new blood, new energy, and new ideas with the right foundation. So I repeat my first  question again….Who’s Next???

Kwanzaa: Nia, Your Purpose.

“To make our collective vocation the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness.”

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Day five of Kwanzaa focuses specifically on purpose, rather the reason for your existence. We can look at Nia in two forms, individualistic and collectivistic. To understand your self-purpose first, can help you understand your purpose in the community. Each person plays a vital role in the building and shaping form to the community and not understanding your own purpose can  be detrimental to your future.

To begin, we should all search for our purpose on Earth. Whether it is writing, reading, teaching, leading, caring, etc. This role should continue to be the overarching theme in our everyday lives. Whether it is finding mentors in the field, reading to become a better person, or striving for credentials to make you more knowledgeable, being a better you is ultimately the principle of purpose. Finding your true meaning and working towards it.

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Once your purpose is revealed, it is important to help others find theres. This includes community service, helping the youth, and even helping your peers. Not only are you fulfilling your purpose, but helping others allows them to continue their path of purpose as well. Like a domino effect!

AfroMadu challenges you to find your purpose on the fifth day of Kwanzaa. It is time to sit down and critically asses your life long goals and your purpose in life. What a great day to close up 2013!

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The Power of Now Becoming Powerless.

Here at AfroMadu we take pride in preaching and discussing “The Power Of Now”, but have the ideas of thinking for today became too much? Are people just simply thinking about now and not their near future?

Our society THRIVES off the idea of  being “on-the-go”, making everything and everyone so hip to moving in a fast pace. We eat on-the-go meals and fast foods, make time commitments where we rush everywhere, have road rage because traffic  is too slow for our liking, and overall make temporary decisions for our permanent plans.

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“The Power of Now” is the simple reasoning of not worrying about the past or the future but for living and loving everything in the “now”. In our society it’s pretty hard to worry about how to live now and enjoy every momnet without worrying about what needs to be done in an hour or what you plan to do for your birthday next year.

Living in the now can also level your head to what’s important and beneficial to the process of self discovery. And besides, whats soo good living in the past when you have a present to worry about????

Although this seems like a blasphemous concept, there are extremes to the Power of Now. Allowing yourself to act in a uncontrollable manner because you are living in the now, is beyond extreme and detrimental to the rest of your life. Let me explain…

This new on-going trend of  “YOLO” (You Only Live Once), has people going bonkers. There have been many crimes committed and lives ended because living in the now went too far. 

But should life really draw down to that? When you finally feel like you are comfortable with being grounded and secure in the present that people must live a life of extreme partying and crime? Do we drear away from the now because of what can potentially happen?

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This Fall season, don’t let YOUR Power of Now become wasted or miscued. Live the present life that you were always supposed to live. Be comfortable in  understand and accepting that NOW is really the only thing you can have. LIVE FOR NOW! 

4 Behaviors to Not Tolerate

1.Supporting Hatred

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Regardless of how bad someone has hurt you, we must never allow our heart to be built on hate. I know sometimes it’s very hard to do especially when someone has hurt you so bad and all you want to do is hurt them like they hurt you. Living a life that is hate free creates peace of mind and also become a happier person. As Gandhi said, “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”

2.Negativity

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Sometimes we can’t control our environment but we do have full control of what we put out.  When I was younger, I used to get teased about being Liberian, I didn’t realize that the negativity of others was sabotaging how I viewed myself, my family and everyone around me. It wasn’t until I learned about my culture (I’m still learning)  I was able to have inner peace with myself and was able to stick up for myself. Sometimes negative words and actions are so poisonous that they start to invade our minds and our hearts.

3.Toxic friends

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The closest people could be the most harmful. You could be friends with someone and because they have become so bitter, they start to attack your dignity and beliefs. Sometimes people become so bitter that they will crush your dreams and aspirations just so they can smile.  I had to let some people I thought were my friends because instead of taking control their lives, they blame everyone for every downfall.

4.Stressing over what could have been.

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Sometimes we are so scared of change that we start to wander back to “that old thang.”  We become reluctant to go after something new because we’ve become accustomed to what we already have or had.  Stop tolerating your own actions! Instead thinking about the past worry and the now and how that’s going to lead you into the future.

 

William Ernest Henley said it best “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”  Remember that this is your life and you can’t allow negative thoughts and behaviors control it. Your dignity is sometime tested but you always have to remember to stay strong!

 

Yeah, “The System” is Meant To Keep Us Down, Now What?

This is a nation of people who find comfort in blaming others for their discomfort. In a sense, we have become comfortable in our discomfort; a culture of poverty has formed. Instead of making steps to improve ourselves and our future generations, we often settle and just decide that we have no chance and it’s because “The Man” is the cause for it and there’s nothing we can do about it. To make matters worse, when someone tries to fight that belief and improve themselves they’re “acting white” or “fake”. We keep ourselves down and try to make sure we keep each other down with us.

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What we need to do is work on getting further and further in life as people and as individuals! Never settle for discomfort, if you aren’t satisfied with your current situation or if someone you influence isn’t satisfied than make steps to change. Help yourself, help your people. If you want to live a better life educate yourself and create a better life however you choose to do so. Write music, create music, read books, write a book, do whatever you love doing and do whatever your heart desires. We need to make sure that we are also able to survive in this world by being educated on how it works and how to work through it. Expand your vocabulary, dig into new things, find new interests, become a jack of all trades. The system will keep you down as long as you are not educated enough to raise yourself. There are many outlets in this age, we have way more than our predecessors. Let’s succeed, no one can keep us down, and no one can hold you back.

A quick way to educate yourselves that is right here is our AFROMADU BOOK CLUB! Check it out and join us! Reading will always be fundamental.